Sometimes it is the deepest most beautiful things that we fear the most:
We fear true intimacy & sharing – because then we are vulnerable and may get hurt.
We fear that letting our fears show, is a weakness and someone will judge us for our fears.
We fear accepting our fears and noticing them and then letting them go – because we have carried them with us for a long time, they have hurt us in the past, they have kept us safe in the past, what would we do without our fears?
The amazing thing is that:
Fear is a bigger obstacle than the obstacle itself
“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.”
Any new pursuit requires entering uncharted territory — that’s scary. But with any great risk comes great reward. The experiences you gain in pursuing your dream will make it all worthwhile.” Paulo Coelho, The Alchemist
We are all scared:
Scared of success, scared of failure, scared of many things, we have fears about making a decision in case the result is not what we expected.
Fear of saying yes to something we know is beautiful and fills our soul with joy, for fear that it may disappear or we may get hurt.
And yet should we not be more afraid to say no and never experience what we desire, what we know is ours and what can bring us so much joy and love right here and right now?
Sometimes we hold onto our fears and cover them up, pretend they are not there – but they will always surface, it is not about saying they are not there, it is about recognising them, and learning from them, letting those fears that hurt us in the past teach us a lesson for the present, but not hold us back from taking risks in the present or the future.
It is about taking those risks, despite the fear and knowing that the risks and the actions we are about to take may bring fearful feelings as we take them, but they will give us way more sorrow and fear if we don’t!
Sometimes others can see our fears, that we may know are there or that we may be refusing to recognise and it is ok to hold out your hand and allow someone to gently show you a mirror and what it is you fear, allow yourself to be guided and supported to release those fears……
There is no weakness in sharing your fears, only weakness in refusing to accept, learn, recognise or make changes due to fears from the past and those fears with you right now……..
Fear can only win if you allow it to – the fear itself is actually only a feeling and it is up to you to take a risk and flow – dance even with your fears, and empower them to drive your forward as you let them go……
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